Complaining is easy. We all do it. When things are going wrong we may believe that complaining is the only choice we have. We think we have the right to complain. But complaining is one of the things we should do less.
What happens when you complain? Do you think that this is the best strategy to solve your problems?
I believe we all have the right to express our opinion, but complaining is not the way to get what we want. Complaining usually makes your situation even worse. Let’s see why.
1) Complaining makes you pessimist. When you argue about something, when you just focus on what is wrong you just prevent yourself from seeing what is good about a situation. When you waste all your energies on the “wrong” there is no space for the “good”. Moreover a pessimist attitude doesn’t allow you to see the situation from a wider perspective. If you think that something is bad, you just want to confirm your idea, rather than better analysing it. When you complain you might lose the chance to see the opportunity that lies behind a setback;
2) When you complain you attract other complainers. Have you ever noticed that you influence the people you live with? and that they are influenced by your behaviour? Well that’s how life works. We are used to hang out with people similar to us, to talk about things we have in common. As a consequence if you start complaining, people around you will be encouraged to start complaining as well. And this will bring you to a down spiral: pessimism calls for more pessimism. Do you really want to live as a complainer among other complainers? Do yourself a favour. Stop arguing for everything. Look at the positive, not at the negative;
3) Complaining makes you stuck in the current situation. As you complain you give up on action. By just pointing out what is not working you do nothing but raise your awareness on a problem. Awareness is fine, but it’s pointless if it is not followed by action. Nevertheless when we argue we usually look for the easy solution, for a simple way to fix a situation. We expect others to act upon our needs, to solve the matter for us. Trying to solve the problem ourselves would be a much more mature attitude;
What do you think about this post? Are you used to complain a lot? What do you think we can do to get rid of this attitude? Please let me know in the comments below!
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