Is your environment taking you down?

Twisted tree

Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.

Napoleon Hill

Last time I have talked a lot about attitude and positivity. These are indeed fundamental aspects of our lives. If you don’t expect to succeed you are most likely to fail. If you think that every setback is just a proof of your inabilities you are not going to improve any soon. If you see yourself as limited and powerless for sure you are not going to start a fresh new adventure that might bring new excitement into your life.

Many people understand this principle and try their best in order to change their minds and thus to create a better reality for themselves. Nonetheless this is absolutely not easy and it is not guaranteed that one is going to succeed.

Sometimes we try to change our opinion and to see the good in every situation but we just can’t help but go back with our minds to what is still not perfect, to the long way that is still in front of ourselves. In fact, many times what really prevents us from changing is not our mind, but rather the environment we live in.

Our environment is essentially made of the factors: the physical reality and the people we interact the most with during our lives.

The physical environment

The physical environment we live in is not the most important factor affecting our life, but still it has an importance. Let’s say you live in a house in which everything is messy and dirty. Do you think that seeing some stinking clothes dangling from a chair would inspire you and give you the motivation to get the best out of your time? Or would it instead make you think that you are a complete failure, not even able to keep your place clean and fresh? What about a very chaotic desk? Would it help you to find the required concentration so that you are able to make some valuable contribution during your working hours? Or would it just feed your anxiety and frustrations?

In order to have fresh and reactive minds we need to take care of our physical environment. Our thoughts are connected to the environment we live in. Make your place clean, simple and essential and this will help you not to get continuously distracted by superfluous and annoying thoughts. Moreover, if you keep your place “under control” you will have the feeling of truly mastering your life and you will get a consequent boost in your self esteem.

The people we live with

On the other hand, the people we live with are probably the most important factor which defines the person we are and the thoughts we hold the most often. You might think that you are independent human being and that you have the ability to define and become the kind of person you want to be. However, this is only partly true. The people we share our time with have such an important influence on us that in the end we become like them and we start to see the world the way they see it. The only way out is to change the people we hang out with, the people we get inspired by and the people with whom we share our innermost secrets.

The fact is that changing our perspective is itself a very challenging task. When we need both to fight against our natural thoughts and to let go of the unsupportive comments of our friends, then change becomes even harder. I really challenge you to manage to see the good in every situation when you are constantly bombed by your friends who keep telling you that the present situation is very bad and that you are going nowhere. It is possible to succeed in an harsh environment, but it is much more complicated. Much more effort is required.

If you want to start seeing reality in a positive way start to get along with positive people, if you want to keep dreaming start talking with dreamers, if you want to be happy spend time with the most inspiring people you know. Thoughts are contagious, so be careful not to get taken down by others. Choose carefully the people you are going to spend your time with: they define the kind of person you will become.

Your opinion

What do you think about this post? Do you usually take care of your environment so that it inspires you? How do you manage not to be taken down by others? Please let me know in the comments below!

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4 thoughts on “Is your environment taking you down?

  1. Thank you for another of your very thoughtful posts, dear Enrico. I copy a few lines of it to ask you some questions about it!

    ” . . . The people we share our time with have such an important influence on us that in the end we become like them and we start to see the world the way they see it. The only way out is to change the people we hang out with, the people we get inspired by and the people with whom we share our innermost secrets. . . . ”

    One of my questions concerns the immediate family, Enrico. Family does influence us, doesn’t it? However we might not always agree with what the family dishes out to us. A young, independent person might be in a position to more or less sever family ties. However I think family is always kind of important. If at all possible one should try to uphold some family connections. Would you agree to this?

    People we get inspired by are of course very important. In my experience we do not find them always in our immediate neighbourhood. We can be inspired by great philosophers and thinkers, alas we probably find them only in books or via the internet. It is on the other hand very gratifying, when there are persons in our surroundings with whom we can have conversations about all these subjects that interest us.

    My husband can sometimes be a bit of a pain in the neck, but conversations with him I usually find very stimulating and rewarding. Isn’t it great to have a partner like this? 🙂

    Sincerely,

    Uta

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    1. Hi Uta, it is indeed amazing to live with empowering people, especially if we have a very strong connection with them 🙂 Regarding family ties the question is a bit more complex.. I do not suggest to give up family relationships, since they are very important. In case we have some very disempowering relative I suggest we should try not to get to much negatively influenced by his presence. After all it is not about not passing time with some people, but deciding which ones are going to affect the way we see our reality!

      Enrico

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      1. ” . . . but deciding which ones are going to affect the way we see our reality!”
        You are so right, Enrico. Thanks for that! 🙂

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